Last year, I was able to travel to China to meet le BF’s family. I would have never thought I would ever get to visit China. I fell in love with Shanghai. The big flashing lights, high towers, awe-inspiring structures – it puts Vancouver to shame. I understood why it is a world class landmark and a global behemoth. I do hope that in my lifetime, I get to visit other parts of China, because from what I gather, Shanghai is only the beginning of it all.
Ummm.. awkward frontal wedgie LOL – it was windy and yah….
That smog is no joke.
At the bottom of the Orient Pearl Tower – Oooo lights.
Louis, Louis, Louis… this is a snapshot of how the Chinese can really dish out.
Ever since the beginning, I have always had more guy friends than girls. On multiple occasions, I have gotten my fair share of heartbreaks from girl friends. Some time ago I read a scathing article about what it means to be friends with guys. It lambasted the fact that the someone that is considered “one of the guys” has issues which explains why they aren’t found in a group of women and that they shouldn’t be trusted. Check it out here “Why You Should Never Trust A Girl with No Girlfriends”
I beg to differ.
Before I get into the thick of it, let’s point out a few factors:
– I am as girly as it can be, I love pretty dresses, wearing makeup and high heels
– I have a small yet wonderful number of female friends (who are neither part of a group or clique)
– The type of girlfriends I have are strong, independent, positive influencers who have great attributes such as kindness, empathy and compassion.
– I have a boyfriend. LOL
Not that I’ve never been in a friendship with a group of girls, I just discovered as I got older, that I didn’t need to keep myself with a group, or even a group of girls for that matter if I was looking for a more substantial friendship. By any means, I am not knocking being friends with a group of girls. Simply countering the ridiculous article that pigeon-holes women that aren’t in one. In my opinion, it is a classic case of playground bullying where you count a someone out because they don’t try to be like you and your friends. It does bring the idea of women empowerment a notch down when you have an idea alienating others through negative influence. As women, we should support each other, be empathetic to each of our individual differences and cheer each other on for every victory.
But of course, I cannot fail to mention the benefits of being the chick friend in a guy group:
- You’re the homie they can crack jokes with, no filters
- When they’re down and out, you’re one of the few they can talk to where they can be “soft”
- You learn a lot about the opposite gender just simply talking to each other
- You know they have your back no matter what (that’s why bromances are solid)
- NO BS and will call you out straight. Rare to find, but even more valuable when they’re your bros.
There you have it, we homegirls aren’t so bad.
Let it growwwww, let it grow! – the goal of optimal long hair has now been achieved! haha as per image below
Due to my recent obsession with a Filipino “loveteam” or cinema tandem, I got myself a Tagalog novel – “Para Sa Hopeless Romantic”. At first I thought it would be a challenge as I’ve never read a novel in the Filipino language before. I was pleasantly surprised that after a slow start, I flew right past it. In short, the novel was about misunderstandings and getting back to your true love. I did find it rather choppy, despite the author’s best effort to connect 5 individual story lines together. Although I must admit, I had to trudge through some pretty eye-rolling, rather gag-worthy lines as the Filipino culture has a penchant for extremely cheesy jokes. I would laugh out loud thinking,”really?!?”
As summer approaches, I got a head start with my summer reading with “Paper Towns” by John Green. In this stage in my life, I absolutely crave coming-of-age stories. It’s something to relate to and it reminds me that I don’t have to stress out being an adult just yet. I am a fan of John Green, not the hardcore, crazy kind but I do admire the power of his writing and how it brings you to be in touch with your own humanity. Lucky for us, there’s a film coming out! I must say I felt a bit of a drastic denouement and wish it rounded off better, but overall it left an impression. It gave me a chance to take a moment and reflect on what my next moves are, as it was reminiscent of when I realized that I let my days pass by too quickly. As much as I can, I do try to present in “the present” although I wonder how many others are like this, where they realize if they are even living at all –
“Do any human beings ever realize life while they live it?” – Thorton Wilder
Did I mentioned I joined a book club? I joined a few months back but only got to jumping on the wagon (finally!) I am currently reading the June pick of the month, “I Know This Much is True” by Wally Lamb. It was featured on Oprah’s Book Club in 1998. I’ve only been a few pages in and so far it is addicting. I must say, that it did illicit a vivid dream that involved my boyfriend, a surrogate mother that was carrying my twin girls. Totally bizarre – the fact that it would affect my psyche as such shows that this novel is already impactful. Whoa. Still more pages to go! I’ll throw in how the book club discussed the book at a future post.
Next post will be a guest post on Top 3’s 2015 Summer Looks from my dear friend Joy of “BerryPrettyJoy”